hope my wife’s lover gets her pregnant because having a baby might save our marriage.
Illustration photo credit: zoosk image
An American married man,44 who never had an issue since he married to his 39 year old wife 18 years ago now want his wife secret lover to impregnat her so that he can father the child. He wrote a latter to Deidre asking for his opinion.
DEAR DEIDRE: I’M hoping my wife’s lover will get her pregnant. Do you think I am asking for trouble?
I am 44 and my wife is 39. We have been married for 18 years. We have never used contraception but there is no sign of a family.
I became aware of my wife's secret affair after I came home work early and could hear sex noises upstairs
My wife always gets home from work well before me — and I know she has a lover because I came home early one day and heard sexual noises upstairs.
I’m not one for confrontation so I went into the living room and sat on the sofa behind the door until things quietened down.
I then heard my wife come creeping downstairs and whisper something, then more footsteps down the stairs.
The footsteps went through to the kitchen and I heard the back door open and close.
If my wife becomes pregnant through her secret lover, it might rescue our marriage from divorce
My wife then went back upstairs for a while. I guess this was to tidy up the bedding to remove any sign of someone having been there.
I quietly slipped out the front door then came back in again more loudly, closed it and called out that I was home. My wife was a bit flustered and surprised that I was home so early. I could clearly hear the anxiety but then relief in her voice.
We had the usual conversations about her day and my day and that was it.
This happened more than a year ago and I thought long and hard about whether to confront her.
Having a child will make my wife happy, she is always jealous when her colleagues go on maternity leave
Truth is, I was not surprised she had someone else, because our sex life has been pretty dreary for a few years. So I let things be.
The next time I left work early, I called in at the pub on my way home. But now I was aware of the lover, I always knew when “he” had been around. There were tiny clues such as a dent in my pillow or an extra glass in the dishwasher.
My secret hope is that my wife gets pregnant by him. A baby might be the saving of our relationship, as well as make my wife happy. She is always envious when her colleagues go off on maternity leave.
DEIDRE SAYS: Or it might be the end of your marriage. You could no longer pretend to be unaware of your wife’s affair and she might feel obliged to tell you about her lover – who might then be keen to raise his child.
I know you’re nervous of confrontation but your marriage is already in crisis. Talk to your wife about that and her feelings about not having a child.
Until you know exactly how she feels, you can have no idea which way your relationship is heading.
If her affair is only because she wants to get pregnant, then IVF for you as a couple could be the answer.
If the affair is about your dreary sex life, then you can do something about that together.
Source : SunUk
Illustration photo credit: zoosk image
DEAR DEIDRE: I’M hoping my wife’s lover will get her pregnant. Do you think I am asking for trouble?
I am 44 and my wife is 39. We have been married for 18 years. We have never used contraception but there is no sign of a family.
I became aware of my wife's secret affair after I came home work early and could hear sex noises upstairs
My wife always gets home from work well before me — and I know she has a lover because I came home early one day and heard sexual noises upstairs.
I’m not one for confrontation so I went into the living room and sat on the sofa behind the door until things quietened down.
I then heard my wife come creeping downstairs and whisper something, then more footsteps down the stairs.
The footsteps went through to the kitchen and I heard the back door open and close.
If my wife becomes pregnant through her secret lover, it might rescue our marriage from divorce
My wife then went back upstairs for a while. I guess this was to tidy up the bedding to remove any sign of someone having been there.
I quietly slipped out the front door then came back in again more loudly, closed it and called out that I was home. My wife was a bit flustered and surprised that I was home so early. I could clearly hear the anxiety but then relief in her voice.
We had the usual conversations about her day and my day and that was it.
This happened more than a year ago and I thought long and hard about whether to confront her.
Having a child will make my wife happy, she is always jealous when her colleagues go on maternity leave
Truth is, I was not surprised she had someone else, because our sex life has been pretty dreary for a few years. So I let things be.
The next time I left work early, I called in at the pub on my way home. But now I was aware of the lover, I always knew when “he” had been around. There were tiny clues such as a dent in my pillow or an extra glass in the dishwasher.
My secret hope is that my wife gets pregnant by him. A baby might be the saving of our relationship, as well as make my wife happy. She is always envious when her colleagues go off on maternity leave.
DEIDRE SAYS: Or it might be the end of your marriage. You could no longer pretend to be unaware of your wife’s affair and she might feel obliged to tell you about her lover – who might then be keen to raise his child.
I know you’re nervous of confrontation but your marriage is already in crisis. Talk to your wife about that and her feelings about not having a child.
Until you know exactly how she feels, you can have no idea which way your relationship is heading.
If her affair is only because she wants to get pregnant, then IVF for you as a couple could be the answer.
If the affair is about your dreary sex life, then you can do something about that together.
Source : SunUk